You may think well you’ve already gone public? since well your writing a bloody blog. This maybe true in one sense, but most of our family don’t know as yet. This is a problem any couple has to deal with.
The solution I came up with was I’d tell the world under a nom de plume…..
Then tell all and sundry when things were safe after week 12 just in case anything goes wrong.
We have in this last week met with our Obstretrician which went well.
I think both my wife and I will be happy with that decision. But really most of the time how much do these people do?
I have absolutely no idea?
I know they have skills which if everything goes all bad, I will really want on hand….
But the rest of the time isn’t it kind of like lots of waiting… watching and let the midwives deal with the majority of it??? Time will tell and I am most happy to receive feedback on this.
We had another ultra-sound (Yes this baby is the most ultra-sounded baby ever) I heard the heart beat again, it’s strong and rapid. This does not get boring!
I understand now why Tom Cruise bought one of these machines when he was having his last kid. As a toy this is pretty cool.
But….This was an external ultrasound not an internal ultrasound so the clarity and definition is just not the same, I ‘d have to say I was a little disappointed after the first one it’s like watching video as compared wiith HD. Putting my own disappointment at the clarity to one side.
Again the photo’s we were left with were completely indistguishable.
But….
Very happy to say the baby is still ALL GOOD.
The Doctor said the baby has a head of a 12 week baby at 11 weeks.
He looked at me and said well dad’s a pretty big guy, I am 6 ‘5 … He said “more than likely it’s yours.” It’s nice to know even at this early stage that the baby has charecteristics that resemble us / me.
As a prospective parent, I have without really wanting to started to take stock of my life. I’ve looked back at my achievements and my failures of which there have been many.
I’ve also been assessing where in life I am………
What do I bring to the table?
Am I truely happy with it all?
The long answer to this would be another blog but suffice to say when I weighed up my lifes achievements, this is by far and away the best. I can’t really imagine how I could top this one, or how any person could?
The reason I say this is I’ve always thought it was kind of lame claim to fame. What’s worse is the people in my experience who claim this seem to live vicariously then through their children.
I was always concerned to claim procreation as the peak achievement of ones life, but having never been in this position before and reframing this by the adversity of almost 10 years of trying I now think this is completely unlame and a completely reasonable peak, and my previous thinking can go stuff itself in a bag and be thrown into the garbage.
Having stuffed that thought and thrown it away I’ll move on…
The wife has been sick everywhere……… and at all times.
She has been constantly in a pool of her own sputem and I now know it should be called ALL day ALL night random sickness. She has puked more times than we have meals and after being sick there’s always the inevitable words which follow:
“Oh I feel horrible!” & “I feel hungry again”
Thus the magical circle of life…. and sputem… continue.
I’ve heard the term “Parasite” used before and always thought that was a kind of derogatory term for a baby, but really that’s exactly what the reality is.
An unexpected lifeform is taking over my wifes body, starting with her boobs and working it’s way down.
Oh and by the way… they continue to amaze?? They just look tiring and they are like lifting small bags of concrete.
We are at 10 WEEKS and in 2 more weeks I get the DVD of the now grape sized parasite in full HD motion. Yippee!
Unlike Alien which wasn’t released in HD the exit is not predicted to be through the chest
For the last two weeks I’ve been in hospital, so blogging or oggling at the boobies hasn’t really been possible. My appologies, I intend to do a bit of both to kind of catchup.
So back to week nine…..
It’s nice to be home my three dogs are curled up on their beds and the wood heater is cranking along as it’s the middle of winter here.
Food is now more confusing than ever, it has become the enemy? Anything which isn’t cooked just aren’t appealing, so dinners have been mostly roast veggies and chicken, with chocolate milk and chocolate on the side.
I think this baby must like chocolate a lot!
With both our mothers knowing, I’d have to say we are counting the days before we are at the safe mark, 12 weeks. This is generally identified as the time when it’s safe to tell the rest of the family
For once I am wrestling with a very alien philosophy, and going against my instincts by wanting to share good news. The difficulty is when it’s recognised as safe to do so.
Having given exactlly the same advice to my brother in law less than several months ago, I understand fully why people do share this news, before this timframe, however I understand it’s quite fraught with disappointment.
All that to one side.
Everything for us is going swimmingly and we are planning to inform both our families in just under 3 weeks time, after the 12 week scan.
After 10 years being together and 8 years of seriously trying to conceive, a couple of years ago we tried to get some assistance from specialist fertility Clinic. We had no success but did a series of things.
All sorts of testing up to and including several rounds of IUI.
We were just getting mentally and monetarily worked up for IVF
The last procedure may have contributed to our current natural pregnancy. My partner had a thing call a hycosy, now I have no training in anything medical but basically this flushes the tubes out and kind of tests the plumbing.
Now we’ve conceived naturally we hadn’t considered recontacting them until yesterday. My partner had discussed this with workmates who suggested we contact them and see what followup they conduct with “assisted” pregnancies.
Turns out they do alot more than just wait around and see how everythings gone at 12 weeks. They do blood tests weekly and ongoing scans to make sure hormones and development are all going well.
The wife made a phone call yesterday and today we had our very first ultrascan today.
I have to say this lived up to the hype!
I was expecting to see a digitized still shot of a prawnesk fetus or baby. I certainly didn’t expect to see anything in detail.
Instead what I saw was an incredibly high quality movie of a tiny small baby. To be precise about 1.17cm.
I was shocked by the clarity. I could see finger buds and toes.
But mostly I was taken back at the strength of the heart pumping.
! WOW !
There haven’t been many points in my life where i have struggled to describe something but this is definately one of them.
It seemed to me the heart was pumping very hard and really fast.
All was normal and the Dr did a series of checks to confirm sizes of things.
The drive home was the most defensive drive I’ve ever done in my life.
During that drive I had time to contemplate.
I had presumed coming off anti-depressants drugs had been the sole reason for my wife becoming pregnant. The doctor was adament that this would not have caused this. He said in that amount of time we were talking about one strayshot would have splipped through.
He said that after a hycosy a pregnancy is not uncommon.
On the defensive drive home we dropped in and showed my mother the picture of the baby. The picture we have does absolutely no justice to what we saw otherwise I’d post it up.
I have been informed at 12 weeks we do another scan at which we get a DVD so I’ll post that if I can work out how to convert it.
Ladies and Gentlemen I am not completely happy with this post I feel quite uneasy about it. It’s not as funny as my usual posts. Today was quite unusual and I am a little staggered by the way it has made me feel. It has made me reflect quite deeply and I think it has profoundly changed my life.
This is why.
The baby exists
I’ve seen it
It’s tangible
I know it is mine
It’s only a matter of time now until
I am a Dad.
I am asking for opinions here.
Has anyone had success conception wise whilst on anti-depressants?
Ok it’s week 7 in the most wanted pregnancy in the world.
Life is great and the reality of creating a life after 8 years of thinking this was impossible without expensive, intrusive medical assistance is starting to settle in.
On waking I ask the missus how she is… she says to me morning “I think i feel better today honey, the morning sickness has shifted a bit.” 60 seconds later she’s gone to the toilet……..there’s that horrible and slightly furious noise.
The morning sickness is still most definately with us. 🙂 I hate to hear her being sick, actually I don’t like anyone being sick. I don’t like blood or anything along those lines, I’d make a terrible nurse, doctor or anything else which includes bodily functions.
Since winter has come we have been visited a few times by mice. They move in after the first rains of winter. Where we live is kind of rural so mice, mosquitoes, and foxes are not uncommon.
These are field mice in particular small generally inoffensive, kind of cute, and in my shed generally which i can absolutely live with. BUT of late they have been quite intrusive, a whole family decided to move in to our house and they did so in a day.
I was just pouring a glass of milk just about to go to bed when a family of about 5 mice hop in through the dog door completely unanounced, how rude!
They ran straight up the corridor and almost into the kitchen. I moved slightly and I think I was about to say “err ” or flap my arms in a disapproving manner when there was an “EEEeeeeeeeeeeeeeK!”
The “EEEeeeeeeeeeeeeeeK” came directly from the first mouse. About this point I find out that mice have both traction control and have completed the advanced driver training course.
The mouse braked hard and then pulled on it’s mousey handbrake, it performed an almost perfect 180 impressive! But what was more impressive was all of the mice followed in formation. This was an incredibly adept bunch of mice. Maybe Rally mice?
They ran back out the way they came in and hopped out of the dog door, the last one as it was going out, hit the dog door flap. It made quite a thud, then it fell back, shook itself and finally hopped out. I think this was one of the most random things I have seen in a while and no-one else saw it. I laughed then but I am not laughing now as I am battling with them now.
Even though it’s kind of inevitable in the rural setting we have, I simply cannot accept the idea of mice and baby sharing the same house. It shall not be.
So I am declaring WAR!!
on the mice to make sure by the time this kid arrives the mice are evicted or extinguished their choice.
I have today invested in a LOT of plastic tubs and cleansed our pantry which has been ransacked over the last couple of nights. I’m sure they are having some sort of Mouse house Party in there….strangely they seem prone to eating pasta? Why pasta? I thought cheese was their thing?
I’ve also invested some money in mousey traps. I set them up in our pantry (I didn’t put on fatigues or camoflauge) and I waited.
Later I heard a snap and an EEeeeeeeeK. I went to have a look at the result and I was baffled?????? There was a MOUSETRAP with a stick of spaghetti in it???? WTF> Is this mouse screwing with me or what?
It looked to me like the mouse must have been chewing on some pasta and then thought hey I’ll dip it in some peanut sauce stuff over there yummy!
Anyway moving on…
I have some lawn which badly needs attacking with a whipper snipper / or weed wacker whatever your comfortable with. It just keeps getting longer, it’s winter here so I have to choose my moments between the rain drops.
The wife makes lunch and I step through the door. I barely get through the door and…….. YOU STINK
of WHAT?
YOU SMELL LIKE GRASS
Grass?
Grass??
Of course I smell like Grass…
I didn’t realise that Grass was a smell capable of being an offensive or negative smell??
And B.O…..
Ok I know I have man-stink or FUNK as some people call it
and I admit at times it can get pretty bad.
This was not one of those times it was just after a shower and a very short amount of work maybe 15 minutes worth. So after a quick cheese and something sandwich it was back to the shower so my wife can bear it when we go shopping.
We had to do some food shopping and I think more than anything curiousity got the better of us both and so we ended up at about 5 shops looking in the maternity and baby section.
I have previously commented on infrastructure and now I realise the FULL mindbending extent of the horror.
<insert horror music>
In front of me are row after row, lifetimes worth of stuff, and things I’ve never seen which we may purchase if we may so choose or if we need?
Prams, Bottles, Baby Capsules, Nipples (no the plastic ones), Baby Bouncers, Baby Capsules that fit into Prams, Cots, Nappies……….
I am staggered by the amount of STUFF it’s possible to purchase, in this realisation I have also worked out I HAVE NO IDEA what the hell I am doing here.
I say this to the wife and she asks me to research………….
the standards which cover Prams
and which ones are and aren’t approved?
Of course I realise this is just something to keep me occupied………. and they all have to be above standard otherwise they can’t be sold in reputable stores
but in any case I appreciate her trying to involve me.
I think next time I’ll keep it to myself or blog it instead.
Ok it’s WEEK SEVEN and the baby is about the size of a Rasberry? Blueberry or some other type of small colourful berry. The important thing is it’s sweet and still there.
ALL IS GOOD, or at least on track.
I am considering drafting up a media release for when we go public, to alert the appropriate authorities to our pregnancy, until then please remember this is not yet common knowledge so you have to keep it under your respective blog hats.
Just when you thought they can’t get any bigger…
THE BOOBS GET BIGGER??
I think this is breaking the laws of physic’s and I am not sure how is that even possible. I’m thinking soon it maybe possible to stand next to them and have my photo taken saying I’ve been there!
I’ve tried lifting them and they are HEAVY, like sandbags.
I held them up in the shower to give my wife some relief but after somewhere between 2 – 4 minutes I was very ready to stop in truth I was getting a sore back.
Women of the world you have my complete sympathy on this one.
SO much so…
Right now if my wife decided she would like to buy a bra which is
– extra heavy duty
– with compensating shock absorbers
– and / or counterweights
– and / or some sort of boobs support jockey wheel
I’d just say yes then ask what size, colour and research the best quality one and then I ‘d glady go and get it for her.
But since the best you can get is a well fitted bra she’ll have to settle for that.
Guys I think there is some room for more scientific experiments and or products here.
She is developing a pregnant pudge, it’s exactly in the right spot (goodo) and seems to be taking the right sort of shape. I’m trying to talk her into letting me take a photo.
Next to her nose…. She smells everything!!!
She has overnight become a scent hound.
She definately hasn’t become a beagle as beagles eat everything they smell and can get near. No she’s smelling a lot of stuff and doesn’t want any of it. Including me.
Apparently I stink, but this is nothing new….
I’ve stunk forever it’s just now it makes her want to dry reach?????
I can only assume that this is whenever my deoderant is getting the slightest bit on the used side. I must say that having your wife want to dry reach at you, and on you is difficult, but is strangely becoming more and more normal day by day.
One thing I have read in Pregnancy books which seems to be a re-occurring theme is this.
“try substituting an apple cut up into small pieces she maybe craving sugar or instead suggest going for a romantic walk.”
A ROMANTIC WALK. okaaaaaaay.
My wife has two concrete bags on her chest and is constantly wanting to puke on me, at me, or just around me….and you (the person who wrote the book not you gentle blog reader) want me to lead her off on some romantic walk.
Ohhhhhhhhhhhh YEAH! ? ! ? ?.
No. no. NO.
See the problem is that they have to include healthy advice as the book is written by Doctors and they don’t wish to be sued.
Personally I think it should say… Give her a fresh crossaint a flower and ever so lovingly hand her
the Xbox or Dvd Remote gently whilst
spraying yourself with deoderant and telling her you love her.
We’ve both been reading up on pregnancy and I’ve almost watched all of the Pregnancy for Dummies (strangely this was helpful) DVD.
I am currently reading a book called “How to keep a pregnant woman happy” which my wife got out for me at the Library.
This book is GOLD advice for men.
Yes it’s a little dated and the version I am reading was actually written by a monkey on a typewriter but strangely not much has changed in the process of pregnancy.
The main procedures and problems are still the same. As a bonus for Guys it’s kind of written like a workshop manual. It doesn’t need to be read from cover to cover. You can simply look up the answer and look like you know what your talking about.
You can look well versed in the pregnancy thing..
You too can look like a pompous ass who knows everything
and you can do it in the style of the 1950’s. After you’ve reeled off the right answer…… you can both sit back and have a cigarette, knowing it’s good for you and the baby. Ahhh.
My brother in laws wife is pregnant too.
They got married and seemingly instantly she got pregnant (Man that would be nice) for us it was much harder.
Anyway turns out she’s at 11 weeks now 4 weeks further on than us. And it turns out she’s probably going to the same hospital we are going to. So after ten years of hoping for grandchildren I hope both the Grandma’s are up for some baby juggling.
One thing i have noted we are consuming a LOT more milk these days I don’t know why this is but I hypothesize that this is what is making the boobies bigger? Are they like storage vats?
It’s week 6 1/2 and things are still going great!!
The reality that after 8 years of trying and a couple years of practice…
my wife is pregnant naturally. Yippee! but it’s still feels very surreal.
Morning sickness has set in and well the wife is feeling pretty flat and without much energy.
This week it has struck me that at some point we are going to need some infrastructure and do some forward planning!
What do i mean?
Well things like:
Car Capsule, Baby clothes, nappies, A Cot, A Pram, Bottles, A highchair, more nappies… and a thing called a breast pump
What the heck is a breast pump?
I have learnt that BABIES are postively superconsumers!
This baby isn’t even near being delivered yet and it’s already demanding half a house worth of stuff.
I know nothing about this stuff and I value your opinions on this.
We saw my partners GP this week a funny old Chinese man he very much resembles buddah. My wife has seen him her entire life and so it was a happy moment for all. My wife says “Hello Dr….um… well we’ve come to you because I’m pretty sure that I am pregnant.” Now I know what a pregnant pause is.
The Dr sits back in his chair smiles and says “Well don’t look at me…. I had nothing to do with it.” His comedy routine (which is very good) continues The Doctor being quite old went onto say “If I die during the consult it’s free! But if you get even part way out the door and I die, you have to pay the bill” 🙂
He also sorted out an obstretrician now remember we are at week 6 and 3 of their refferal obstretricians were already booked out?
It begs the question how is it possible to know any sooner?
and do you book when you think you might feel your going to be pregnant?
In any case he worked out the time when the baby is due early Feb 2011.
Anyway so thats where we are on the journey and don’t hold us to that date.
I don’t quite understand all about the pregnancy thing yet… but I do know different buns in different ovens bake more or less quickly.
The bun is in and is cooking!!
Keep you posted
P.S Thanks to all the people who sent congrats we were both a bit taken back at that.
Accountability, it’s a strong word to use, but it’s precisely what needs to occur and be displayed by BP and the US Government.
BP should have a temporary US Trading Ban put in place until this situation is completely resolved. This would allow BP to focus it’s efforts and resources entirely on this situation. It would also bring the severity of this to their boardroom table.
A US Trading Ban brought in by the US Government would penalise the company and ensure public faith in this company maybe able to be restored. This Ban only to be lifted if and when the company can show real accountability and have acted responsibly for the massive destruction this has caused and continues to cause.
Until such time, the Executive Management from BP Worldwide should be flown in to help lead and participate in on the ground clean up. This would at least show leadership and a willingness to assist when the worst occurs. The very best they can do is the very least they can do and this would be at best a token gesture.
BP should no longer be subject to it’s own competancies, a huge fine be imposed from which an independant competence unit be setup to ensure safe practice. It’s free trading should be scruitineered for 15 years to ensure competence and safe practice.
BP should no matter what the outcome, have to rebrand it’s company worldwide. They cannot and should not be allowed to represent themselves as any part of nature.
It’s easy to lead when nothing goes wrong but in times like this what we need is a sense of real Accountability.
Not just for their asthetically pleasing shapes, sizes and differing composition but also for what they do and the way they do it.
“Men are hung up on breasts. They’re looking at the titty dinner. It’s pathetic.” Betty Dodson
Yes indeedy.
They are like two blissful balloons which every month fill and deflate.
This is as a result of I believe the booby fairy coming and going.
The booby fairy’s legacy is to make my life more fun
and my wifes kind of uncomfortable
then when the booby fairy must leave she naturally returns things to normal.
But WAIT!!!
Something different happened this month?
The booby fairy came and stayed?
Now at this point some men may rejoice and count their lucky stars and not question this any further. I’d have to say my first reaction was suspiscion.
The month seemed to have definately gone past and still the boobs persisted.
I was most intruiged.
The longer this went on my thoughts were gee I hope this is it.
And it was.
Yippeee!
We are at week 6 now and the baby / fetus / whatever…. is the size of a pea or a blueberry I know that because I watched the DVD of pregnancy for dummies.
bought one of these machines when he was having his last kid. As a toy this is pretty cool.
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I’ve heard the term “Parasite” used before and always thought that was a kind of derogatory term for a baby, but really that’s exactly what the reality is.
An unexpected lifeform is taking over my wifes body, starting with her boobs and working it’s way down.
Oh and by the way… they continue to amaze?? They just look tiring and they are like lifting small bags of concrete.
We are at 10 WEEKS and in 2 more weeks I get the DVD of the now grape sized parasite in full HD motion. Yippee!
Unlike Alien which wasn’t released in HD the exit is not predicted to be through the chest
For the last two weeks I’ve been in hospital, so blogging or oggling at the boobies hasn’t really been possible. My appologies, I intend to do a bit of both to kind of catchup.
So back to week nine…..
It’s nice to be home my three dogs are curled up on their beds and the wood heater is cranking along as it’s the middle of winter here.
Food is now more confusing than ever, it has become the enemy? Anything which isn’t cooked just aren’t appealing, so dinners have been mostly roast veggies and chicken, with chocolate milk and chocolate on the side.
I think this baby must like chocolate a lot!
With both our mothers knowing, I’d have to say we are counting the days before we are at the safe mark, 12 weeks. This is generally identified as the time when it’s safe to tell the rest of the family
For once I am wrestling with a very alien philosophy, and going against my instincts by wanting to share good news. The difficulty is when it’s recognised as safe to do so.
Having given exactlly the same advice to my brother in law less than several months ago, I understand fully why people do share this news, before this timframe, however I understand it’s quite fraught with disappointment.
All that to one side.
Everything for us is going swimmingly and we are planning to inform both our families in just under 3 weeks time, after the 12 week scan.
So I am up for idea’s on how to break the news?
How would you?
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